I grew up watching Ruby Wax on UK television.
If my, now fading, memory serves me correctly, there was one show I particularly enjoyed, where Ruby went out and about meeting people. And that’s as much as I can remember about the detail. In my defence we are going back a couple of decades.
What I do remember is she was funny. I have always found Ruby Wax very funny.
I’m intrigued by those who are unapologetically themselves. That lack of insecurity is very appealing. To be so comfortable in your own skin surely is something we all aspire to. Even if, sometimes, it divides opinion and favour.
One of my mantras is ‘Be true to you’.
So, when I heard Ruby’s voice on BBC Radio 2, being interviewed about her new book, my ears pricked up. I downed tools (aka moved away from my pc) and sat in a comfy chair. Then I listened, mindfully, to her.
After the interview, I downloaded her book *‘Sane New World’. Any book that covers psychology and is written by a comedian is going to be my kind of book.
This isn’t a book review, rather I would like to share something.
I soon read the book, enjoying the content and the style. The subject matter of ‘being mindful’ is something that I am interested in, and strive to practice in my daily life.
But I’m not perfect – no-one is. From time to time I forget to be mindful.
And when that happens I remind myself that;
‘The days are long, but the years are short’ Gretchen Rubin.
When I remember that, this is how I remind myself to be mindful (in the present) with my children:
- When they talk – I listen.
- When they ask questions – I answer them, as honestly as I can.
- When they give me a gift – I show gratitude.
- When they want to sit and just be physically close – I do that (even if we only have a minute or 2 spare)
- When they read – I sit with them and listen, answering questions as they arise.
- When they want to try something new – I support them.
- When they make a mess – I help them to clean it up. After all actions speak louder than words.
- When they are sad – I empathise, and demonstrate they are not alone.
- When they are happy – I celebrate with them.
There are no perfect parents, just those who try to do the best they can.
Remembering that children live in a different time-frame is important. They live for the present.
Children do not need to practice mindfullness. It’s their default mode. It’s what adults start to lose, as we mature and commitments and responsibilities increase.
In the words of Ruby Wax herself ‘Yes Oprah, I’m available’.
And over to you. How do you remember to live in the present and enjoy the fleeting moments that arise and so quickly disappear in the busyness of the 21st century?
(Just to add, interestingly when I read Ruby’s book, I discovered that insecurity has been very much a part of her life. That I, without doubt, got very wrong from watching her on TV)
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