It happens to me every time.
There’s a deadline, and I have grand plans to be prepared or super organised, but then I run out of time.
I don’t get everything done.
Rewind 5 years or so and my previous self would panic and delay the deadline, or even cancel the event itself. Wanting the timing to be perfect.
But there is no such thing as perfect.
I’ve talked about this before.
The timing will never be ‘just right’.
Sometimes you just have to jump right in, and trust that whatever happens it’ll work out. Whether or not you feel ready. Maybe we are never ready?
“Leap and the net will appear”- John Burroughs
Although it isn’t included in this trailer I believe Nanny McPhee’s 5th lesson is all about ‘leaps of faith’.
A lesson I have learnt as I have gotten older, is that to believe you can deal with whatever comes your way is immensely valuable. Because we can, however hard.
“Facing it, always facing it. That’s the way to get through. Face it.” – Joseph Conrad.
Not that I’ll be doing much leaping. Not in the physical sense anyway, maybe emotionally.
Off for surgery tomorrow, and immobile for a while, I’ll accept I’m not prepared. But that the time I spend housebound will be productive. It’s time to get those jobs ticked off the list that never get done when I’m busy, busy, busy running around.
Do you run out of time, or is there an elusive perfectly prepared out there?
Sometimes we just run out of time but sometimes we aren’t ready because we’re perfectionists and always think of one more thing we think “needs” to be done. I’m working on changing that trend. Good luck with your surgery.
Best wishes for a speedy recovery!
Something that I’ve learned (in my 61 years) is that I over-committed myself many times. I would go through periods where I’d cut back, but I never learned to say no. I’d gone through back problems, falls on ice that resulted in two torn rotator cuffs. I’m now at the point where I don’t have any commitments outside my home. Now I can finally do my sewing, canning, cleaning without someplace to be or something to do. Anyway, what I’m trying to say is that when I was incapacitated with my back and shoulders, the world revolved without me, and things got done. If they didn’t get done, someone else stepped forward, or it just didn’t happen. It took me a long time to just let it go. I hope that you heal quickly, but also give yourself time and let some things go. God be with you –
I have always procrastinated, so for that reason alone I have seldom been prepared for things. But I am also a perfectionist, and I wonder if the two are somewhat connected (failing to start because the goal is so huge). Anyway, I am always trying to improve the procrastination part, but if the target or goal is always moving (perfection) it’s pretty hard to win. Good luck with the surgery, and resist the urge to “get things done” before your body is ready for it. (That – like Diane’s comment above – is a lesson learned from experience!)
I hope all goes well with the surgery. I’m constantly running out of time and don’t believe the people who say that they don’t. Liars, I tell you. Take care of yourself and try not to worry about all the things that “need” to get done. You may find that they didn’t really need to get done after all.
I’ve let go of so much as I’ve gotten older. There is no state of perfection. I will join the rest of your friends in wishing you the best with your surgery and a speedy recovery. You may get frustrated with your inability to “keep up”, but your job will be healing, and everything else will wait.
All the best Jo!
2015 has got off to a bad start for me – I’m facing up to my partner of 30 years/ husband of 20 been having an affair for the past few months. Whilst he’s been unfaithful before (on several occasions) it has been *just* sex with people from online. This woman worked with him, was his facebook friend (and commented on some of my posts in which he was tagged) – far more real life than any other brief encounter he’s had. I don’t know if I’ve got the strength to carry on with the fractured relationship (although he’d thought about leaving me and the 4 kids (all still school age) he’s now *realised* that’s not what he wants…..) and I spend half my time wanting to curl up into a ball and hide from the real world. I hate what he’s done and how he’s hurt his family (the 2 teens are aware, the small 2 just know something’s not right). But I know I have to face up to all of it and whatever may happen, and that the journey – however it will end – will be a long and painful one, with slides backwards.
Sorry for my ramblings – I haven’t told anyone in real life – I guess I’m ashamed 🙁
Hope the op goes well, please take it easy – delegation is a hard thing to learn to do, but sometimes we just have to take a back seat and let others do it (even if they don’t do it our way!0 ;))
Best wishes for a good recovery xxx
Take care of yourself. You have nothing to feel ashamed of. Be proud that you tried to make it work for so long. This is not you failing.
Love Sharron x
Mrs G – Yes to everything Sharron said. Take care of you. All the best. – Jo H.
Take care Jo! Hope all goes well. And lots of love to Mrs G too xxx
I’ve really let go of perfection in recent years. It’s just a hindrance! Good Luck with the op. Not sure what your having done but don’t over do it!
Love Sharron x
Yes, I run out of time quite often. But, I procrastinate too much also!
Thoughts and Prayers for your surgery and a quick recovery.
Take care,
Lori
I absolutely agree that we often procrastinate because we have standards that overwhelm us. That is true with me. I can’t stand to not do something thoroughly or “just right.” So many many many times, I just do nothing. It’s good to say no to unnecessary fluff in life, but we have to stay connected with tasks that make us happy. Even if that means allowing ourselves to do an imperfect job of it. Doing something doesn’t mean I have to do it all! As Kristen of the Frugal Girl says, It doesn’t have to be perfect to bless people. I am learning this lesson finally!
I hope your surgery goes very well, Jo!
Xxx