Open House / Feeling Inadequate & Amateur Psychology

I declare this blog well and truly open!

Sign hanging in the window of Edward & Vintage Sweet Shop - Tissington

Sign hanging in the window of Edward & Vintage Sweet Shop – Tissington

Anything goes on a Thursday, but I’ll kick off with a blog post I read this week.

Let’s talk about feeling inadequate.

My favourite blog is The Frugal Girl. So, when Kristen suggested that if aΒ blog makes you feel inadequate you should unsubscribe, it made me question whether her blog made me feel inadequate.

I concluded no, it doesn’t.

Then, being the overthinker that I am, I started to consider what blogs actually make me feel inadequate. I couldn’t think of one. Not even Grace’s – and if ever there was one that should – this is it! πŸ˜‰

Then, being a major overthinker, I started considering the wider subject of “feelings of inadequacy”.

I don’t think I have them.

Sometimes I feel I could do better, and probably ought to. And I’m sure, if asked, others may suggest that I could try harder. But, for me, to feel inadequate, I believe would require comparison. My actions, I don’t compare to others. We all do things differently and to varying degreesΒ and results.

That’s kind of when I had a light bulb moment.

I’m textbook type B personality. Relaxed, reflective and non-competitive. Maybe that’s why I don’t have feelings of inadequacy?

I don’t alwaysΒ cut the mustard with some of the things I do. These things tend not to be a priority to me. But it doesn’t matter that I sometimes miss the mark. Not to me anyway.

As I said this blog is well and truly open! Anything goes Guys! Feel free to drop links in and shamelessly (yes shamelessly – shame is so pointless! ask Dr Brene Brown) self-promote anything you like! Let’s have some fun!

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  • Sharron October 30, 2014, 3:34 pm

    Good afternoon Jo.

    I have perfectionist tendacies, so much so that if i think i cant do something perfectly i won’t bother at all. ‘Tis the reason i put off for so long changing my career. Even now i try to do the very best i can do and berate myself when i can’t. I know this sounds like an excuse but i need to seriously loose weight, i put off doing it cos i want to be the perfect dieter, and i know i can’t be. Afraid of failure me thinks! There i’ve said it (who need’s therapy!!) I don’t feel inadequte i realise that my best is in most cases good enough, but my brain doesn’t compute anything other than striving for perfection.

    On another hand Daughter has just carved the pumpkin, all by herself. Now i do feel surplus to requirements after 19 years of being chief pumpkin carver πŸ™‚

    We are off to NYC (I may have mentioned this lol) on Tuesday so wont be here for next Thursdays open house!

    Lovely to chat!
    Sharron x

    • Simply Being Mum October 30, 2014, 8:02 pm

      Perfectionism can cause inertia – 95% of the time I have no issues with it, but oh boy when that 5% kicks in. My perfectionism relates to very specific things and I have a fear of ‘missing something’. There’s a post coming soon on hoarding and this fear.
      It always makes me think of the opening credits of Homeland when Saul says ‘We all missed something that day’ and Carrie replies ‘Everyone’s not me’

      We haven’t carved yet! Hope you are feeling too redundant?

      Enjoy NYC and I hope the birthday goes fantastically xx

      • Sharron October 30, 2014, 8:56 pm

        Homeland is on my list πŸ™‚ once 24 is finished! I think one of the reasons your blog is a must read for me is that you have a similar mindset to myself, yet you appear far more relaxed about it all.

        Having just dumped the contents of the pumpkin on the compost heap, i now feel inadequte that you are going to make a fab stew or pie with yours….. Of course i am joking but seriously that’s a whole lotta waste!

        Great comments and contributors!
        Sharron x

        P.s no not feeling too redundent, never really liked sawing off my fingers anyways πŸ™‚

  • Sharron October 30, 2014, 3:34 pm

    Good afternoon Jo.

    I have perfectionist tendacies, so much so that if i think i cant do something perfectly i won’t bother at all. ‘Tis the reason i put off for so long changing my career. Even now i try to do the very best i can do and berate myself when i can’t. I know this sounds like an excuse but i need to seriously loose weight, i put off doing it cos i want to be the perfect dieter, and i know i can’t be. Afraid of failure me thinks! There i’ve said it (who need’s therapy!!) I don’t feel inadequte i realise that my best is in most cases good enough, but my brain doesn’t compute anything other than striving for perfection.

    On another hand Daughter has just carved the pumpkin, all by herself. Now i do feel surplus to requirements after 19 years of being chief pumpkin carver πŸ™‚

    We are off to NYC (I may have mentioned this lol) on Tuesday so wont be here for next Thursdays open house!

    Lovely to chat!
    Sharron x

    • Simply Being Mum October 30, 2014, 8:02 pm

      Perfectionism can cause inertia – 95% of the time I have no issues with it, but oh boy when that 5% kicks in. My perfectionism relates to very specific things and I have a fear of ‘missing something’. There’s a post coming soon on hoarding and this fear.
      It always makes me think of the opening credits of Homeland when Saul says ‘We all missed something that day’ and Carrie replies ‘Everyone’s not me’

      We haven’t carved yet! Hope you are feeling too redundant?

      Enjoy NYC and I hope the birthday goes fantastically xx

      • Sharron October 30, 2014, 8:56 pm

        Homeland is on my list πŸ™‚ once 24 is finished! I think one of the reasons your blog is a must read for me is that you have a similar mindset to myself, yet you appear far more relaxed about it all.

        Having just dumped the contents of the pumpkin on the compost heap, i now feel inadequte that you are going to make a fab stew or pie with yours….. Of course i am joking but seriously that’s a whole lotta waste!

        Great comments and contributors!
        Sharron x

        P.s no not feeling too redundent, never really liked sawing off my fingers anyways πŸ™‚

  • rebeccahalpern2013 October 30, 2014, 3:35 pm

    I write a blog about my son with autism, which I started primarily to help friends and family understand more about what autism means to us. I don’t care how many people read it, the more the better but getting more views isn’t that important to me. Other people with blogs (not you I hasten to add) are often concerned with getting more and more views, or with offering competitions or product reviews. This has made me feel that my blog is less “professional” in a way, but I really have no interest in making my blog more commercial, I’m happy with it as it is!

    • Simply Being Mum October 30, 2014, 7:53 pm

      Oh Rebecca this is a big subject! Monetizing blogs! On one hand if you aren’t generating revenue from your blog you get asked ‘well why do you do it?’ and if you do monetize there will always be those who oppose it.
      Hands up I don’t know what will happen here in the future! I’m not sure it’s black and white for me. Like you, I started blogging to share with family and friends. But then when I started blogging I felt so exposed I didn’t want to tell those close to me about the blog. The majority of friends and family do not know about my blog still, 4 years on. Not for any reason now apart from if they find me, they find me. They must be searching for information they want to read. If they don’t find me then I don’t want them reading through obligation. There’s no need for them to do this.
      You don’t blog for 4 years without being approached many times ( if not daily then weekly) to advertise. I’m not going to use the word ‘tempted’ as this suggests its a forbidden fruit (aka naughty!) – but I do question if practically I should monetize my blog. Because ultimately the money would benefit my family, and others in many ways. I’d only consider approaches from companies that I use or would use. But the jury’s still out and this is the main (but not the only) reason I haven’t moved to a self-hosted blog yet – currently I lack the desire to. Although I have seriously considered it and weighed up the pros and cons. It wasn’t the right time, but it may be the next time I sit down and really think about it.

      My blog is my virtual home, I cannot compromise it in any way. I want to hang around the blog is my virtual comfy PJ’s and chill out, catching up with global virtual friends!
      If I can find a way to monetize in a way I’m happy to I may well do it – but not at the expense of you all. I value every single reader way too much.
      There are many fantastic blogs that successfully monetize in a way that fits them and their readership – currently I’m not confident I know how to do that here.

      As for your blog, who cares whether it’s professional or not? It’s yours, and you’re happy with it just the way it is. Or rather ‘Just as you are’ Let me introduce Mark Darcy at this point: http://youtu.be/oZu2JfM2Aq8
      (How ironic – excuse the 20 second advert at the start ;))

      • rebeccahalpern2013 October 30, 2014, 9:23 pm

        I haven’t got anything against adverts or other ways of monetizing blogs, it’s just not something that interests me (at the moment anyway!). I also think that for me it is just a hobby – if there was any pressure involved in a commercial way I probably wouldn’t enjoy doing it any more!

        • Simply Being Mum October 30, 2014, 9:38 pm

          Hi Rebecca – I kind of went off on a tangent didn’t I? Your comment wasn’t really about monetizing blogs! I think I needed to get something off my chest. The point about the blog being ‘for you’ and not commercial I totally understand – Totally.

        • rebeccahalpern2013 October 30, 2014, 9:39 pm

          And don’t worry – yours is one of the few blogs I nearly always read, and I would definitely carry on reading it if you had adverts etc!

    • Sharron October 30, 2014, 8:59 pm

      Hello Rebecca, gonna pop over to your blog. My son has autism too. He is 14 now and when he was first identified as having problems i would have love to have read a blog about autism.

      Sharron x

      • rebeccahalpern2013 October 30, 2014, 9:32 pm

        Hi Sharron. I have found the blog very therapeutic to write, and it has definitely helped explain things to those who didn’t really understand my son. There are even a couple of my son’s teachers who read it, and they have said it has helped them to know things about what happens at home.

  • rebeccahalpern2013 October 30, 2014, 3:35 pm

    I write a blog about my son with autism, which I started primarily to help friends and family understand more about what autism means to us. I don’t care how many people read it, the more the better but getting more views isn’t that important to me. Other people with blogs (not you I hasten to add) are often concerned with getting more and more views, or with offering competitions or product reviews. This has made me feel that my blog is less “professional” in a way, but I really have no interest in making my blog more commercial, I’m happy with it as it is!

    • Simply Being Mum October 30, 2014, 7:53 pm

      Oh Rebecca this is a big subject! Monetizing blogs! On one hand if you aren’t generating revenue from your blog you get asked ‘well why do you do it?’ and if you do monetize there will always be those who oppose it.
      Hands up I don’t know what will happen here in the future! I’m not sure it’s black and white for me. Like you, I started blogging to share with family and friends. But then when I started blogging I felt so exposed I didn’t want to tell those close to me about the blog. The majority of friends and family do not know about my blog still, 4 years on. Not for any reason now apart from if they find me, they find me. They must be searching for information they want to read. If they don’t find me then I don’t want them reading through obligation. There’s no need for them to do this.
      You don’t blog for 4 years without being approached many times ( if not daily then weekly) to advertise. I’m not going to use the word ‘tempted’ as this suggests its a forbidden fruit (aka naughty!) – but I do question if practically I should monetize my blog. Because ultimately the money would benefit my family, and others in many ways. I’d only consider approaches from companies that I use or would use. But the jury’s still out and this is the main (but not the only) reason I haven’t moved to a self-hosted blog yet – currently I lack the desire to. Although I have seriously considered it and weighed up the pros and cons. It wasn’t the right time, but it may be the next time I sit down and really think about it.

      My blog is my virtual home, I cannot compromise it in any way. I want to hang around the blog is my virtual comfy PJ’s and chill out, catching up with global virtual friends!
      If I can find a way to monetize in a way I’m happy to I may well do it – but not at the expense of you all. I value every single reader way too much.
      There are many fantastic blogs that successfully monetize in a way that fits them and their readership – currently I’m not confident I know how to do that here.

      As for your blog, who cares whether it’s professional or not? It’s yours, and you’re happy with it just the way it is. Or rather ‘Just as you are’ Let me introduce Mark Darcy at this point: http://youtu.be/oZu2JfM2Aq8
      (How ironic – excuse the 20 second advert at the start ;))

      • rebeccahalpern2013 October 30, 2014, 9:23 pm

        I haven’t got anything against adverts or other ways of monetizing blogs, it’s just not something that interests me (at the moment anyway!). I also think that for me it is just a hobby – if there was any pressure involved in a commercial way I probably wouldn’t enjoy doing it any more!

        • Simply Being Mum October 30, 2014, 9:38 pm

          Hi Rebecca – I kind of went off on a tangent didn’t I? Your comment wasn’t really about monetizing blogs! I think I needed to get something off my chest. The point about the blog being ‘for you’ and not commercial I totally understand – Totally.

        • rebeccahalpern2013 October 30, 2014, 9:39 pm

          And don’t worry – yours is one of the few blogs I nearly always read, and I would definitely carry on reading it if you had adverts etc!

    • Sharron October 30, 2014, 8:59 pm

      Hello Rebecca, gonna pop over to your blog. My son has autism too. He is 14 now and when he was first identified as having problems i would have love to have read a blog about autism.

      Sharron x

      • rebeccahalpern2013 October 30, 2014, 9:32 pm

        Hi Sharron. I have found the blog very therapeutic to write, and it has definitely helped explain things to those who didn’t really understand my son. There are even a couple of my son’s teachers who read it, and they have said it has helped them to know things about what happens at home.

  • Kristen | The Frugal Girl October 30, 2014, 5:04 pm

    Jo, that’s a wonderful trait….to not ever feel inadequate!

    I have a pretty good level of self-confidence, so I don’t struggle with this as much as a lot of other people do. And also, I am the opposite of a perfectionist, which also helps me in this regard.

    • Simply Being Mum October 30, 2014, 7:17 pm

      As you’d expect being a Type b personality I’ve been reflecting on what I wrote all day! πŸ˜‰

      The excellently written post from you, has made me question my emotions this week.

      I believe there is always a ‘Yin’ to a ‘Yang’ to all situations, experiences (and emotions). Not having feelings of inadequacy may be a positive in many ways, but I do question that if I don’t experience it due to my lack of competitiveness and comparison, then I may well not be performing as I could. If I had a little more competitive drive maybe that would be a good thing? In fact I can feel an experiment coming on πŸ˜‰

      I may not feel ‘inadequate’ but I sure can lack confidence. But the key thing with that probably is he ‘self’ bit of it. But that’s a whole other post πŸ˜‰

  • Kristen | The Frugal Girl October 30, 2014, 5:04 pm

    Jo, that’s a wonderful trait….to not ever feel inadequate!

    I have a pretty good level of self-confidence, so I don’t struggle with this as much as a lot of other people do. And also, I am the opposite of a perfectionist, which also helps me in this regard.

    • Simply Being Mum October 30, 2014, 7:17 pm

      As you’d expect being a Type b personality I’ve been reflecting on what I wrote all day! πŸ˜‰

      The excellently written post from you, has made me question my emotions this week.

      I believe there is always a ‘Yin’ to a ‘Yang’ to all situations, experiences (and emotions). Not having feelings of inadequacy may be a positive in many ways, but I do question that if I don’t experience it due to my lack of competitiveness and comparison, then I may well not be performing as I could. If I had a little more competitive drive maybe that would be a good thing? In fact I can feel an experiment coming on πŸ˜‰

      I may not feel ‘inadequate’ but I sure can lack confidence. But the key thing with that probably is he ‘self’ bit of it. But that’s a whole other post πŸ˜‰

  • Jo H. October 30, 2014, 6:43 pm

    I don’t think I normally have feelings of inadequacy but I will reject blogs with a tone of superiority or intolerance of other people’s ways of being or doing. There is too much good content and too many generous and kind people both in real life and in blogland to be bothered with those whose attitudes detracts from my happiness. I am happy to say that your blog, Jo, and Kristen’s, are two of the delightful blogs that have enriched my daily life. Keep on doing what you are doing and how you are doing it.

    • Simply Being Mum October 30, 2014, 7:19 pm

      Thank you Jo – you are always so kind. I cannot imagine you having time for intolerant blogs, as you are indeed very tolerant. I’m wondering if I’m not reading as many blogs as I used to. I think maybe I’ve subconsciously culled some of my reading.

  • Jo H. October 30, 2014, 6:43 pm

    I don’t think I normally have feelings of inadequacy but I will reject blogs with a tone of superiority or intolerance of other people’s ways of being or doing. There is too much good content and too many generous and kind people both in real life and in blogland to be bothered with those whose attitudes detracts from my happiness. I am happy to say that your blog, Jo, and Kristen’s, are two of the delightful blogs that have enriched my daily life. Keep on doing what you are doing and how you are doing it.

    • Simply Being Mum October 30, 2014, 7:19 pm

      Thank you Jo – you are always so kind. I cannot imagine you having time for intolerant blogs, as you are indeed very tolerant. I’m wondering if I’m not reading as many blogs as I used to. I think maybe I’ve subconsciously culled some of my reading.

  • Vee@VeesEasyVegan October 30, 2014, 7:26 pm

    The whole out in the world thing be it blogging or social media leaves us open to criticism all the time. The thing is life is not an even playing field. Someone will always have a better camera, more time, less kids, more money, a sister who designs web pages, people to test your recipes and on and on. Everyone is an expert on your life when we open ourselves up. I have more of a problem with judging people you do not know or judging people at all. My motto “do your best with what you know”.
    I am not a perfectionist at all, I blog for me and me alone because it was a dream of mine to make it happen.
    Though Jo I think Britain has a MUCH LARGER PROBLEM….pumpkin waste at Halloween.
    http://agirlcalledjack.com/2014/10/30/dont-throw-away-that-pumpkin/

    • Simply Being Mum October 30, 2014, 7:58 pm

      I mention above that when I started blogging I felt ‘exposed’. It’s a big thing to ‘come out’ as a blogger. I still haven’t done it fully to family and friends, although that’s more because I’ve kind of forgotten they don’t know, it’s such a part of my life!
      My motto is definitely ‘live and let live’!

      You beat me too it Vicki! πŸ˜‰ I’m talking pumpkin waste tomorrow! Or rather reducing it!

  • Vee@VeesEasyVegan October 30, 2014, 7:26 pm

    The whole out in the world thing be it blogging or social media leaves us open to criticism all the time. The thing is life is not an even playing field. Someone will always have a better camera, more time, less kids, more money, a sister who designs web pages, people to test your recipes and on and on. Everyone is an expert on your life when we open ourselves up. I have more of a problem with judging people you do not know or judging people at all. My motto “do your best with what you know”.
    I am not a perfectionist at all, I blog for me and me alone because it was a dream of mine to make it happen.
    Though Jo I think Britain has a MUCH LARGER PROBLEM….pumpkin waste at Halloween.
    http://agirlcalledjack.com/2014/10/30/dont-throw-away-that-pumpkin/

    • Simply Being Mum October 30, 2014, 7:58 pm

      I mention above that when I started blogging I felt ‘exposed’. It’s a big thing to ‘come out’ as a blogger. I still haven’t done it fully to family and friends, although that’s more because I’ve kind of forgotten they don’t know, it’s such a part of my life!
      My motto is definitely ‘live and let live’!

      You beat me too it Vicki! πŸ˜‰ I’m talking pumpkin waste tomorrow! Or rather reducing it!

  • Hi! My name is Vicki. October 30, 2014, 8:08 pm

    You inspire me Jo and today have given me an idea for a future post ( which will NOT be about Australian’s pumpkin waste).
    The monetizing thing on blogs is interesting and worthy also of careful critique and analysis. I really appreciate Rebecca’s comment and the dilemmas of which way to go in that regard. BIG topic. Some of the blogs I enjoy seeing in my inbox have few or no ads and then one or two are full to the brim with them. I like what I like for the subject matter and how it is written not if I can buy an ebook or cleaning products or the likes from a link. I like blogs where the author seems to be someone I can meet for a cuppa and a chat. That is just me πŸ™‚
    See you tomorrow.

    • Simply Being Mum October 30, 2014, 8:32 pm

      Looking forward to the post! Interested to hear your take on it.

      See you tomorrow! Whoooooooooooo (my attempt at a scary sign off)

  • Hi! My name is Vicki. October 30, 2014, 8:08 pm

    You inspire me Jo and today have given me an idea for a future post ( which will NOT be about Australian’s pumpkin waste).
    The monetizing thing on blogs is interesting and worthy also of careful critique and analysis. I really appreciate Rebecca’s comment and the dilemmas of which way to go in that regard. BIG topic. Some of the blogs I enjoy seeing in my inbox have few or no ads and then one or two are full to the brim with them. I like what I like for the subject matter and how it is written not if I can buy an ebook or cleaning products or the likes from a link. I like blogs where the author seems to be someone I can meet for a cuppa and a chat. That is just me πŸ™‚
    See you tomorrow.

    • Simply Being Mum October 30, 2014, 8:32 pm

      Looking forward to the post! Interested to hear your take on it.

      See you tomorrow! Whoooooooooooo (my attempt at a scary sign off)

  • Claire October 30, 2014, 8:16 pm

    I’ve just made a Nescafe (I think) Spiced Orange Mocha to slurp on whilst joining you in your virtual home.

    I posted a Facebook status earlier this week to which my cousin replied with ‘Progress, not perfection’. Although this appears to have originally come from the rehab environment I think it is perfect for me!! I have been decluttering for ages and ages and continue to do so and even if all I have done is take back my landlords books that I borrowed that is progress and that’s what I need to start focusing on. I have a long term dream that will need me to be decluttered and in a mindset to stay that way which I know I need to build up gradually. So alongside William Morris and ‘Have nothing in your houses that you do not know to be useful, or believe to be beautiful’ I shall add ‘Progress, not perfection’.

    http://lessismoreihope.blogspot.co.uk/2014/10/adventuring-last-day-at-my-cath-kidston.html

    • Simply Being Mum October 30, 2014, 8:34 pm

      ‘It does not matter how slowly you go, as long as you do not stop’. Confucius. Progress. Progress. Progress! Keep going! Did you read ‘The Magic Of Tiding’ yet? If not you can be the next one to get it in the post!

      Enjoy that Mocha – sounds good! Think I have a baileys lined up (although it’s Aldi’s version – of course!)

      • Claire October 30, 2014, 8:37 pm

        I haven’t got/read it yet (although it is on my Amazon wish list) – it’s popping up on several of the blogs I read!!

        The Mocha was rather yummy – only bought them as they were on offer!!

        • Simply Being Mum October 30, 2014, 8:38 pm

          e-mail me your address I will send it to you…but…here’s the fun part…will you give it away on your blog or pass on again with a promise they’ll pass on again? We can all sign it? haha!

        • Claire October 30, 2014, 8:41 pm

          Hmm – can’t reply to your last comment but yes of course I’ll pass it on in one way or another (post/competition..). I reckon you should sign, date and add location and then we can see how far it travels too!!

  • Claire October 30, 2014, 8:16 pm

    I’ve just made a Nescafe (I think) Spiced Orange Mocha to slurp on whilst joining you in your virtual home.

    I posted a Facebook status earlier this week to which my cousin replied with ‘Progress, not perfection’. Although this appears to have originally come from the rehab environment I think it is perfect for me!! I have been decluttering for ages and ages and continue to do so and even if all I have done is take back my landlords books that I borrowed that is progress and that’s what I need to start focusing on. I have a long term dream that will need me to be decluttered and in a mindset to stay that way which I know I need to build up gradually. So alongside William Morris and ‘Have nothing in your houses that you do not know to be useful, or believe to be beautiful’ I shall add ‘Progress, not perfection’.

    http://lessismoreihope.blogspot.co.uk/2014/10/adventuring-last-day-at-my-cath-kidston.html

    • Simply Being Mum October 30, 2014, 8:34 pm

      ‘It does not matter how slowly you go, as long as you do not stop’. Confucius. Progress. Progress. Progress! Keep going! Did you read ‘The Magic Of Tiding’ yet? If not you can be the next one to get it in the post!

      Enjoy that Mocha – sounds good! Think I have a baileys lined up (although it’s Aldi’s version – of course!)

      • Claire October 30, 2014, 8:37 pm

        I haven’t got/read it yet (although it is on my Amazon wish list) – it’s popping up on several of the blogs I read!!

        The Mocha was rather yummy – only bought them as they were on offer!!

        • Simply Being Mum October 30, 2014, 8:38 pm

          e-mail me your address I will send it to you…but…here’s the fun part…will you give it away on your blog or pass on again with a promise they’ll pass on again? We can all sign it? haha!

        • Claire October 30, 2014, 8:41 pm

          Hmm – can’t reply to your last comment but yes of course I’ll pass it on in one way or another (post/competition..). I reckon you should sign, date and add location and then we can see how far it travels too!!

  • Lori October 30, 2014, 8:20 pm

    I’ve been reading your blog and Kristen’s blog for a long time now. I share my lunch with both of you daily. πŸ˜‰ I used to have feelings of inadequacy with just about everything. I wasn’t a good enough mother, wife, daughter, homemaker, cook…. But, I think with age that has changed. (Well, age and a new wonderful husband!) I’ve kept a journal since I was a teenager. I’ve always loved to write, and read. It’s because of your blog (and Kristen’s) that I decided to try it. Again, I don’t know if I’m even interesting to others, but I do it because I enjoy it. Back in the day (the younger me) I would’ve never done it, put myself out there for people to perhaps criticize. But my thoughts are now that if they are picking on me, then perhaps they are leaving someone else alone.
    I enjoy your blog very much, thank you for letting us be part of your life. πŸ™‚

    • Simply Being Mum October 30, 2014, 8:28 pm

      Thank you so much for sharing that you spend lunch time over here! That’s amazing – I can actually see it. Love that.
      Most definitely we change as we age. I used to be incredibly self-conscious, and that has faded. I think as we get older we become more comfortable in our own skin.
      4 years ago when I started blogging I kept it so low key – I wanted to feel my feet. I’m so glad I did as it gives me a chance to grow and find my voice.

      I’ll be over to yours as soon as I’m done here! Yay! way to go Lori!

  • Lori October 30, 2014, 8:20 pm

    I’ve been reading your blog and Kristen’s blog for a long time now. I share my lunch with both of you daily. πŸ˜‰ I used to have feelings of inadequacy with just about everything. I wasn’t a good enough mother, wife, daughter, homemaker, cook…. But, I think with age that has changed. (Well, age and a new wonderful husband!) I’ve kept a journal since I was a teenager. I’ve always loved to write, and read. It’s because of your blog (and Kristen’s) that I decided to try it. Again, I don’t know if I’m even interesting to others, but I do it because I enjoy it. Back in the day (the younger me) I would’ve never done it, put myself out there for people to perhaps criticize. But my thoughts are now that if they are picking on me, then perhaps they are leaving someone else alone.
    I enjoy your blog very much, thank you for letting us be part of your life. πŸ™‚

    • Simply Being Mum October 30, 2014, 8:28 pm

      Thank you so much for sharing that you spend lunch time over here! That’s amazing – I can actually see it. Love that.
      Most definitely we change as we age. I used to be incredibly self-conscious, and that has faded. I think as we get older we become more comfortable in our own skin.
      4 years ago when I started blogging I kept it so low key – I wanted to feel my feet. I’m so glad I did as it gives me a chance to grow and find my voice.

      I’ll be over to yours as soon as I’m done here! Yay! way to go Lori!

  • Clare October 30, 2014, 10:47 pm

    Late again πŸ™‚ I don’t struggle with inadequacy as much as I did when I was younger. I realised my feelings were self-inflicted! And quite often because I was imposing super-human expectations on myself. I am a recovering perfectionist, and a definite type-A personality! I used to be super competitive (the flute world is very competitive and you have to be really good to stand out. Everyone is your ‘enemy’ in a way, always trying to be better than everyone else. Those were stressful years!) but now, not so much. Unless you play a board game with me…but I am a good loser, promise! I don’t blog often (life has descended into crazyness since I started up again!) but it was a big deal for me sharing my first post on my facebook page! But I figured, I only live once, I am committed to authenticity (which means no secrets! Be myself at all times!) and it was best to deal with it like ripping off a band-aid πŸ™‚ It worked for me this time. Last time I was blogging no one knew! I, like you, felt too exposed! I hadn’t figured out what I wanted to achieve with it at that stage and was a little fearful of other people’s judgement. It’s amazing what a few years can do. I just don’t care about that anymore! If I get to the computer tomorrow, we are in for a doozy of a food-waste friday post. Someone (who shall remain nameless, but, let’s just say, he’s the tallest person in the house…) accidently bumped the power switch for the fridge/freezer last night…I have rather a lot of waste this week!!!!! πŸ™‚

  • Clare October 30, 2014, 10:47 pm

    Late again πŸ™‚ I don’t struggle with inadequacy as much as I did when I was younger. I realised my feelings were self-inflicted! And quite often because I was imposing super-human expectations on myself. I am a recovering perfectionist, and a definite type-A personality! I used to be super competitive (the flute world is very competitive and you have to be really good to stand out. Everyone is your ‘enemy’ in a way, always trying to be better than everyone else. Those were stressful years!) but now, not so much. Unless you play a board game with me…but I am a good loser, promise! I don’t blog often (life has descended into crazyness since I started up again!) but it was a big deal for me sharing my first post on my facebook page! But I figured, I only live once, I am committed to authenticity (which means no secrets! Be myself at all times!) and it was best to deal with it like ripping off a band-aid πŸ™‚ It worked for me this time. Last time I was blogging no one knew! I, like you, felt too exposed! I hadn’t figured out what I wanted to achieve with it at that stage and was a little fearful of other people’s judgement. It’s amazing what a few years can do. I just don’t care about that anymore! If I get to the computer tomorrow, we are in for a doozy of a food-waste friday post. Someone (who shall remain nameless, but, let’s just say, he’s the tallest person in the house…) accidently bumped the power switch for the fridge/freezer last night…I have rather a lot of waste this week!!!!! πŸ™‚

  • skirnirh November 2, 2014, 4:35 am

    I feel inadequate a lot actually and I am trying to feel less inadequate, but not succeeding. For some reason, I feel more inadequate at middle age then I did before. Hoping this is just a midlife crises, as they say, and it will pass.

    • Simply Being Mum November 2, 2014, 7:38 am

      Our emotions are strange things aren’t they? Mine can even change from day to day. I’m sure it will pass. Hope you’re settling into your new home!

  • skirnirh November 2, 2014, 4:35 am

    I feel inadequate a lot actually and I am trying to feel less inadequate, but not succeeding. For some reason, I feel more inadequate at middle age then I did before. Hoping this is just a midlife crises, as they say, and it will pass.

    • Simply Being Mum November 2, 2014, 7:38 am

      Our emotions are strange things aren’t they? Mine can even change from day to day. I’m sure it will pass. Hope you’re settling into your new home!

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