I’ve recently discovered Downton Abbey.
Yes, I know, I’m a little late to the party 😉
“What would be the point of living if we didn’t let life change us?”
I’m not the person I was 2 years ago. I’m not the person I was 2 months ago. Life has made sure of that.
When I was pregnant for the first time, I proclaimed that being a mother would not change me. Candidly I’d add, “After all, how hard can it be? It’s two against one!”.
Naive is one way to best describe my attitude at the time.
The late Susan Jeffers and author of Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway believed;
“One of the biggest fears that keeps us from moving ahead with our lives is our difficulty in making decisions”.
I’d add to that, that one of the biggest decisions we have to make is who we now are. Move on or stand still.
What we surround ourselves with (including our clutter) influences who we are. It was Jim Rohn who first observed;
“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with”.
I agree and again would make an addition to this – that the stuff and experiences you surround yourself with maketh the man (or woman).
Which is why when looking at stuff, the decision should be made as to whether it is who you now are. A tough decision, but an important one.
Decluttering is draining, and can be daunting – there is so much decision-making to be made. It’s our past lives we are sifting through, some things should continue the journey with us and some not. But if we recognise that it is very important and a task worth doing, then it gets bumped up the priority list and instead of a nice-to-do-when-we-have-time, becomes a must do. However hard it may be.
This is my career. In a box.
This is what I need to deal with. This is the decision I must make. For others it may be old clothes that no longer fit, make-up that no longer suits them, a CD or book collection. Or it may be paperwork relating to a personal or business relationship split.
To leave it in the box (or closet) isn’t dealing with it, nor is it who you now are. It’s such a burden on a person’s mind to have a pile of sentimental or personal clutter sitting at the back of a cupboard. You may not be able to see it, but it’s there, in your subconscious, weighing you down.
Are you able to move on or do you hanker after the past, the person you once were?
**A few years ago there was a series called Life laundry shown in the UK. This episode shows a previously famous couple struggling to move on from their rock-star days. Gillie’s wardrobe is amazingly cluttered and out-dated – she shares some interesting anecdotes and you can see how she is struggling to move on from who she once was!**